sexual harassment

Don’t Call Me Goddess (Unless I Tell You To)

Throughout gradeschool, college, and the various jobs I’ve held, people who don’t know me have always addressed me by my legal name initially, until I clarify my preferred nickname. They deferred to formality as a gesture of politeness. So, why on online dating sites does this deference to formality no longer apply? (more…)

That Time A Coworker Called Me A “Dirty Girl”

This month, I’ve been temping on and off for a little extra money while I wait for my paralegal course to start — long story short, the goal is to pay for psychotherapy school from a few years of saved earnings as a paralegal. I’m currently being pimped to a technology office filled mostly with guys. Having graduated from a school that’s (unofficially) about 70% women, and having taken classes which were also mostly attended by women, I was excited at the opportunity to be surrounded by nerdy, youngish men in a new and exciting setting.

Although I consider myself a professional, I realize that other people in offices sometimes do unprofessional things on the job, like use vulgar language, watch YouTube videos, and make personal phone calls. They also solicit sex, sometimes. (more…)

Because You Let Me

A chubby, misunderstood kid, Boy pretended not to care what others thought of him. He was a smarter than everyone around him, or so he liked to remind himself (and those of us within earshot). An underachiever, he loved the surprised facial expressions he received from high school teachers whose classes he ditched but tests he aced. (more…)