This past weekend, a friend and I attended the 8th Annual Careers in Sexuality Conference at Widener University in Chester, Pennsylvania. Although the event was geared largely toward aspiring sex educators, there was so much insight to absorb on a general level. Besides, two of the presenters wore dog collars. Dog collars! How cool is that?!
Yesterday when I came home from work, my mom confronted me. She told me that she read my previous post this week — the first post I have publicly shared on Facebook — not to be nosy, but to inspect my grammar. She then noticed a few of my racier titles and wound up reading more personal, intimate articles, like the first time I had intercourse. I was flattered when she whimsically compared me to the legendary Samantha Jones, though I express my sexuality far too lazily to be anywhere near Samantha’s reputation.
What my mom saw inspired both a disturbed horror and curiosity, especially for someone of her generation. (more…)
This is a beautiful example of both sex positivity and open and honest communication with oneself and one’s partner(s). I especially like the emphasis on doing no harm. Enthusiastic consent is vital — even in cases where a fantasy may revolve around an imaginary lack of consent.
Is it possible? Yes. Is it easy? Definitely not.
I write this first entry, as it will likely be a fitting, over-arching theme of most of what may follow, at least in the near-term. It is something of a personal journey … a journey within the boundaries of a marriage relationship and not in the shadows of self-exploration.
Why do I make this distinction? I believe all too often men, in particular, choose to explore their sexual-self outside the view of their wives or partners. And to be fair, I am sure some women explore outside the sight of their men, as well. But I write from a male’s point if view.
I am certainly no expert on this topic; I am still early in my journey. Having lived in a relationship for a number of years where the boundaries were quite explicit and narrow, I am now enjoying a…
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