Emotional Pissing Wars: My Pain Is Bigger Than Your Pain

I read recently about the celebrity Twitter scornfest regarding Kendall Jenner’s now minorly infamous tweet about wishing “things could be easier sometimes”. Frances Bean Cobain chastised Jenner’s self-involvement during a time when “poverty, draught, disease” and worse continue to plague our world. And yet, I sympathize with Jenner’s plight.

A friend of mine once confessed during a depressive episode that although she feels sad about her personal struggles, she also battles guilt because other people in the world have “bigger problems” than hers. What right does she have to feel bad about family, friendships, her own self-esteem, or her direction in life when there are millions of people living in war zones without sufficient access to clean drinking water? (more…)

Borrowed from Elsewhere: Is It Safe To Be the Sexual Me in the Boundaries of a Relationship?

This is a beautiful example of both sex positivity and open and honest communication with oneself and one’s partner(s). I especially like the emphasis on doing no harm. Enthusiastic consent is vital — even in cases where a fantasy may revolve around an imaginary lack of consent.


Is it possible? Yes.  Is it easy? Definitely not.

I write this first entry, as it will likely be a fitting, over-arching theme of most of what may follow, at least in the near-term.  It is something of a personal journey … a journey within the boundaries of a marriage relationship and not in the shadows of self-exploration.

Why do I make this distinction?  I believe all too often men, in particular, choose to explore their sexual-self outside the view of their wives or partners.  And to be fair, I am sure some women explore outside the sight of their men, as well.  But I write from a male’s point if view.

I am certainly no expert on this topic; I am still early in my journey.  Having lived in a relationship for a number of years where the boundaries were quite explicit and narrow, I am now enjoying a…

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